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How to Love Yourself More

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On Valentine’s Day there’s always talk about love and romantic relationships but what about the relationship with yourself. Self-love is a major part of self-care. The language we use towards ourselves is very important. Negative self-talk can be very damaging to your self-esteem. Many times we don’t even realize that we’re doing it. We’ve become so accustomed to criticizing ourselves that it’s become second nature. We truly can be our own worst critics. You wouldn’t like being criticized or ridiculed by someone else so why do that to yourself?

How many times have you looked in the mirror and instead of saying how great you look, you notice all the flaws? Sure we all have things about ourselves that we’d like to change but you have to love yourself right where you are. As a blogger I’ve created content and then looked back only pointing out all the things wrong with it and what I’d like to do differently. Not realizing that that is negative self-talk. So instead I started complimenting myself on all the things I like. For example “Good job and finishing that article” or “I’m grateful that I was able to have an amazing photo shoot”.

Having an attitude of gratitude changes your perspective from a negative to a positive. Even if there are things you’d like to change about yourself try being grateful for what you already have. Sometimes it might just being grateful for a willingness to want to improve. Congratulate yourself for desiring to make positive changes in your life.

If you want to lose weight love your body now, don’t wait until you lose the weight to start loving yourself. For years I struggled with adult acne but I had to learn to love the skin I have no matter how it looks. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to make improvements but love you through each stage of the process.

One of my favorite scriptures that I frequently speak over myself is Psalm 139:14 “I am fearfully and wonderfully made”. God created you in His image, which means you are lacking nothing. Love the beautiful human being that you are right now! So as we celebrate love today, celebrate by also loving yourself more.

Why I Became a Flight Attendant

Faith, Travel

When I announced that I had become a flight attendant, many people friends and family included were surprised to say the least. Honestly so was I because this was the last thing I thought I’d do. From the moment I tell people that I’m a flight attendant the first thing they say is “I’ve always wanted to do that”. Unlike most people I’ve spoken to, being a flight attendant wasn’t my dream job.

Many years ago a now ex-boyfriend thought I’d make a great flight attendant. Although his reasoning was more superficial and aesthetic than anything else.  In his eyes I looked the part. But I digress. At that time I wasn’t the slightest bit interested and until a year ago I still wasn’t.

2017 was a difficult year as I had several family members pass away tragically and suddenly. To make matters worse I wasn’t in the greatest financial position so when they passed I couldn’t even afford to attend their out of town funerals. I felt awful. However the one good thing to come out of it was I finally stopped procrastinating and enrolled back in school to complete my degree. God had been pressing that on my heart for a year prior. Losing loved ones makes you realize just how short life truly is. As cliché as it sounds we have to live each moment like our last because tomorrow is not promised.

Last year I felt this urge in my spirit to travel so I started looking on Indeed for jobs that involved traveling. Of course Flight Attendant positions popped up but I overlooked them and applied for traveling Event Coordinator and Event Management positions because again being a flight attendant wasn’t my ideal career move. When those didn’t work out I went back online again and saw the same position with the company I now work for. This time I really sat down and thought about it. Is this really for me Lord? Could I really do this? Do I even want to? I waited another 3 months before finally deciding to fix my resume and submit my application.

My application process was seamless and quick glory be to God. Training was one of the hardest things I have ever done. However God had shown me so many signs and opened many doors along the way so much that I knew He was behind me. I can share my hiring process in another blog post for those interested. After applying I quickly learned how competitive this industry is and how people have been applying for years with no success. The Lord really blessed me with this opportunity because it wasn’t something I had ever thought about but it happened and He gave me such peace throughout the entire process.

Even though I never saw myself as a flight attendant I always loved to travel. From the first time I got on a plane by myself as a teenager the idea of going to the airport heading off to a new adventure was just exciting to me. Unfortunately due to various reasons I hadn’t always been able to go on many travel adventures. Still, I’ve always loved exploring new cities, places, and things. I tend to get bored very easily and I like to try new things. I feel that this world is too big for us not to experience all it has to offer. I think sometimes we as people get so caught up in our own little world that we forget that there’s an even bigger world out there that God created.

Now I get to see the world from a different point of view. I can fly anywhere in the world for FREE! My family can also fly for FREE. I can be there for my family without having to worry about the cost to get there. I’m still in awe that I have that privilege.

Some of my favorite experiences of being a flight attendant are sitting in the flight deck during a night flight watching the stars shine brightly in the sky and look so close as if you can touch them. Or an early morning flight and watching the sun rise as it leaves a beautiful pink strip across the sky. Beautiful moments that make small everyday problems seem so minute. I’m constantly meeting new people. Everyone travels for different reasons. I’ve comforted a grieving widow and given encouragement for a young med student on his way to school. I feel so blessed to be able to experience these moments.  

My life is definitely not the same and it was an adjustment in many ways (which I’ll share in future blog posts). Working in the airline industry is not the 9-5 corporate job it’s a lifestyle where everyday is different and there is no boss watching you. Now I wish I’d become a flight attendant sooner. This was an unexpected blessing and I can surely say this is where God wants me to be.

Overcoming Anxiety and Depression as a Christian

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In the Christian community discussion on anxiety and depression are often avoided as some take the stance that as a believer we shouldn’t experience those thoughts and feelings. Yes the joy of The Lord is our strength (Nehemiah 8:10) but the bible also says he sends rain for the ones who do right and the ones who do wrong (Matthew 20:45). Just because we put our hope and faith in Jesus Christ doesn’t mean we won’t experience the difficulties of life.

It’s normal to admit feelings of sadness. The bible talk about there is a time and a season for everything under the sun (Ecclesiastes 3:1). So feeling sad or down is a natural human emotion and nothing is wrong with you. It’s what you do with those feelings. Don’t feel like because you are a Christian that you’re not allowed to feel sad. Throughout scripture we see how Jesus wept. In John 11:35 we see Jesus cried and mourned over Lazarus death before he raised him back to life.  Before Jesus died on the cross for our sins he wept and cried out to God let this cup be taken from me (Matthew 26:39). He experienced emotions just like us. Don’t run away from your feelings. Own up to them so that you can deal with them and move forward.

Write things down- I’ve kept a journal since I was a child. While I might not write daily I try to journal down key things and important benchmarks in my life, especially emotional highs and lows. Keeping a record is helpful because it’s allows you to keep track of how you are feeling on a consistent basis. Plus you’re able to document your spiritual and mental growth. One major thing I was able to notice was pattern and certain emotional triggers.

Trigger points- what I realized is that when I feel sad, depressed, or anxious it’s usually something that triggered those emotions. Either an incident or something that happened which caused me to react or respond with negative thoughts or emotions. This can come from circumstances that overwhelm you like a tragedy or death.  My cousin was tragically killed this summer at only 25 years old. This hit my family really hard and honestly something we are still dealing with. None the less we are comforted as we don’t grieve as people with no hope.  Sometimes emotional triggers can be in your own head. Either you’ve overreacted to something someone said or did. A current situation can remind us of what happened in the past and it’ll bring back the same negative emotions as before. This is where we apply the Word of God and take every thought captive and make them obey Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5). You fight the enemy and negative emotions with scripture.

Prayer- Prayer changes things and when we pray we are communicating with God on a personal level. Give God all of your feelings. Get all of your emotion out. I like to vent to The Lord because He said to cast all of our cares onto Him (1Peter 5:7). Everything doesn’t have to be so formal either. Don’t worry about how it sounds just go to God like you would anyone and say hey I’m sad or I don’t like what happened, I’m feeling this way. He can handle our emotions. When I do that I notice that in that moment I actually start feeling better. God can handle all your emotions. He wants us to come to Him because that’s shows we have a personal relationship with Him. I feel a lot closer and more connected to Christ when I come to Him through prayer and asking for help. The bible says he will give us wisdom if we ask for it (James 1:5). So whenever you are facing feelings of depression surrender those feelings unto Lord and He will either give you the answer, a way out, or the strength to go through it with us. We’re not alone because he said that he would never leave nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5, Deuteronomy 31:6). So I dare you to trust God with any and everything you are facing and watch him move to change that situation or give you peace in the midst of that storm.

Talk about it- Talking about things brings them to light. Especially when the enemy try’s to attack your mind exposing those things helps you to gain clarity and helps you to fight against those negative thoughts and emotions. Reach out to friends, family, or professional help. Don’t keep things bottled up. It’s easy to keep things to yourself but that’s not healthy. You may think oh I don’t want to bother anyone or people have problems of their own so I don’t want to burden them so I’ll just deal with it on my own. It helps to talk to somebody about how you are feeling. Sometimes you need to vent not necessarily for answers from others but just as a release. God created us for fellowship so it’s okay to seek help from trusted people in your life. Notice I said trusted; don’t run and tell your problems to any and everybody. Use wisdom as to what and how much you share but definitely don’t isolate yourself when you’re feeling low. If you’re battling thoughts of depression you are at a weak point where the enemy wants you to feel by yourself and like you’re alone in world. One of satan’s biggest lies is that no one cares about you. If you feel like you don’t have anyone close pray and ask God to bring divine connections and fellowship into your life.

 

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Kingdom Building vs. Brand Building

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This fall is a season of reflection. I have readers from all over the world so many of you may not be experiencing the same fall weather that I have. I live in New York City and for the past week it has been cool and the sun is in hiding. The leaves have already changed colors and began to fall. Summer is officially over and autumn begins. With the changing of the seasons also comes a time of reflection for me. continue reading

Healthy Habits Every Chica Should Have

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This platform is about living healthy in all aspects of our lives; mind, body, and soul. I like to discuss a variety of topics from healthy foods, natural beauty, and inspiration. Over the years I’ve heard from dozens of women about issues they face when trying to better themselves. I thought I’d share a collection of things that I think are useful for every woman, myself included.

 

1. Start fresh every single day. Leave yesterday where it is and let tomorrow worry about itself. Instead focus on the current day.

2. Try adding a Meatless day to your weekly routine. Eating plenty of leafy greens and fresh veggies is something everyone needs more of. No matter what your dietary habits are try skipping the meat and junk food just for 1 day out of the week.

3. Put away your phone when you’re out with friends or family. This digital age we live in has everyone with their phone practically glued to their hand. Let’s not get all wrapped up in social media and technology that we forget just how important real relationships are.

4. Exercise can be fun and not a time commitment. You don’t have to have a gym membership to get amble exercise. There are DVD’s, dancing, jogging with friends, any psychical activity that gets the heart rate going and keeps you moving.

5. Drink more water. I know this is talked about several times over but unfortunately most people still aren’t drinking enough water. This cannot be said enough! Try drinking a water with or between meals instead of juice or soda.

6. Don’t try to keep up with the Jones’, chances are you may lose. Stay in your own lane. The wonderful thing about life is that there are no 2 people alike. This also means no 2 lives a like. Life is a personal journey. Focus on making yours the best IT was meant to be.

7. Never grocery shop on an empty stomach. I talked about this on the blog and in my e-book. Shopping on an empty stomach you’re not thinking clearly and you’ll likely buy things you don’t need and spend more money than intended.

8. Keep healthy snacks at home and work. This will lessen the chances of you reaching for some artificial junk. Out of sight out of mind.

9. Stop beating yourself up. Hey, we all make mistakes; learn from it, grow, heal, and keep moving forward.

10. Consolidate and pay off debt. Less debt means less stress. Life is hard enough without adding a mountain of debt to the equation. Try to get rid of things you don’t need. Live within your means and watch your spending habits.

11. Don’t over do it with the alcohol. It’s ok to have a glass of wine or the occasional mixed drink to celebrate or even relax. But alcohol by no means should be your source to have fun or fix your problems.

12. Make your home a place you want to be. We function better in an inspiring place. Spruce up your living area. This doesn’t require a lot of money but it does require your imagination. Get creative, it gets the juices in your brain flowing and brings positive energy in your life.

13. Listen to your body. Being healthy is all about being in tune with your body’s needs. It will tell you what it needs and what it doesn’t like. The key is are you paying attention.

14. Read labels on food, beauty products, and everything you purchase. I’m a sucker for reading labels. If it’s going anywhere near my body I want to know what’s in the stuff and if it will do more harm than good. Don’t just look at the claims on the box do your due diligence.

15. Floss after every brushing. This one is obvious but you’d be surprised how many people don’t even think about their oral health. Oral health is just as important as the rest of your body. Take care of that smile!

16. For every 20 minutes you stare at a computer screen (or any LCD screen for that matter) look away for 20 minutes. Too much stimulation from staring at a screen can actually kill brain cells and strain eyes. Step away for a second refocus then come back.

17. Count to 10 when your angry. The bible talks about being slow to anger and not to go to bed with anger. Don’t let things allow you to explode, you might say or do something you’ll regret later.

18. Don’t skimp on sleep. We all need our beauty rest. I know life gets crazy, deadlines, children, etc. but you’re no good to anyone including yourself if you don’t allow your brain and body to rest.

19. Have an attitude of gratitude. No matter what is going on in your life there is always something positive to be thankful for. Just the fact that you are alive to read this is enough to give thanks. Not everyone woke up today.

20. Meditate and pray. Personally I think this is just as important as healthy eating and exercise if not more. Your mental and spiritual health helps guide you through life. You’re not alone. I like to have my daily chat’s with God it keeps me focused and helps me maintain.

 

 

 

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12 Tips to Staying Happy

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1. Drink a glass of water first thing when you wake up in the morning. This will help flush out toxins from your body and get your day of to a fresh start.

 

2. Get up and move! Daily exercise boosts your energy levels, improves your mood, and relieves stress.

 

3. Get some sleep. A proper nights rest will give you more energy for the next day to do the things that make you happy.

 

4. Every morning make a list of 3 tasks you want to accomplish that day. Check them off the list once you’re done. This will leave you feeling good about yourself.

 

5. Work on important tasks for 50 minutes and then take small breaks in between to refocus.

 

6. Reflect and pray. End your day with prayer and meditation. Self evaluation can be positive.

 

7. Read more. Reading increases knowledge which helps you stay motivated and inspired.

 

8. Learn more. Watching tutorials and learning new skills increases your capabilities.

 

9. Brainstorming helps the blood flowing in your brain. Write down any new or inspiring ideas you may have in a journal.

 

10. Be grateful. Express gratitude for all that God has already done in your life.

 

11. Clean the area around you. Too much clutter can bread negativity in your life. Let go of things you don’t need.

 

12. Indulge in your favorite things. Surround yourself with things that motivate you and bring more happiness in your life.

 

 

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How to be an Inspiration

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The word inspiration is defined by something that makes someone want to do something or that gives someone an idea about what you do or create. As a Christian when I think about inspiration my first thought is about Christ. That is my source of inspiration. The price he paid so that our sins can be forgiven is something that makes me want to strive everyday to do and live better. But what about us? Can we also serve as a form of inspiration to others?

Absolutely!

If God is love then we most certainly can share and spread that love. For starters being an inspiration a lot of times is more about your actions than your words. People watch what you do more than they listen to what you say. How many times have you heard the word hypocrite being thrown around whenever someone’s actions didn’t line up with what they had to say.

If you are a believer in Christ then you are a walking reflection of him.

Share from your own experience. Your personal triumphs can inspire others to take action. I have learned some valuable lessons over the years. The main thing is that the only real security comes from God above. Not people or material goods. The things of this world are only temporary. The purpose of this platform was to share my experiences in the hope of inspiring others. The same goes for you. You may be the only one that can touch someone with your inspiring message. We all have a unique story to tell.

 

Being vulnerable is a big key to sharing your story. I’ve talked to so many people who have lived an incredible life and have great life experiences but don’t want to share them for fear of what other might think. I understand completely what that feels like because I once shared those same fears and anxieties before I started this blog. I was worried and scared about how others might view me. But you know what? I’m glad I decided to go against my fears because in a short amount of time I have been able to inspire others 🙂

Most of all be caring! I talked about sharing the love of God which means having compassion in your heart for those around you.

Let me end this post with some of my favorite inspirational quotes and scriptures.

 

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope- Romans 15:13

 

For I know the plans I have for you, declares The Lord, plans to bring you prosperity and not disaster, plans to bring about the future you hope for- Jeremiah 29:11

 

Truly truly, I say to you whoever believes has eternal life- John 6:47

 

If you don’t like something change it. If you can’t change it change your attitude– Maya Angelou

 

Living in the moment means letting go of the past and not waiting for the future. It means living your life consciously, aware that each moment you breathe is a gift.- Oprah Winfrey

 

In every crisis there is a message. Crises are nature’s way of forcing change- breaking down old structures, shaking loose negative habits so that something new and better can take their place- Susan L. Taylor

 

God bless you all!

 

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